I've had a few dates......some good, some bad and some downright scary!! I've actually tried to use the 'no nipples' thing as a way to put one gentleman off but it seemed to attract him more.....scary man.
There have been 2 men I have dated (not at the same time I hasten to add) that all seemed rosey until on the 3rd date I brought up the surgery stuff. I just felt I had too.....It seemed things had the potential to get intimate and didn't want them down there looking for a nipple to latch onto and thinking 'hold on...what's going on here?!?!?'.
Anyway never heard from either again!! Maybe due to the surgery bombshell, maybe down to something else, who knows. But it has made me realise feeling the need to tell men about the ops has become a real obstacle in my head and is preventing me from just enjoying dating and getting to know people.
So should I find someone I like and want to date I am not mentioning it. If it comes to point of flashing bits and they see the scars and want to ask, they can. If not then I am no longer going to feel I need to give an explanation or a life story.
My mum read an article once about a woman who'd had a mastectomy at 21 and every night her husband would kiss her scars and tell her she was beautiful. Since reading this, I know my mum is dreaming of the day that happens for me.
Bless her. I don't need that. I don't need my scars kissed goodnight or being told despite the scars I am still beautiful.....I just want to be treated normally.
Its just boobs & nipples after all.